Becoming aware of automatic reactivity
How do you know your reactions are conditioned?
Attachment to being right or to others being wrong
Attachment to outcomes
Strong feelings that last more than a minute or two
Rehashing in your mind anything that isn’t happening now
Imagining the future
Worry of any form-also called ‘being concerned’
Being offended, feeling betrayed, taken advantage of, hurt, etc.
The unique importance of trauma
Flashbacks: emotional, physical, cognitive
Misattributing the cause of our feelings
Left brain/right brain disconnects
Recognizing flashbacks in midstream
Taking responsibility for our self
How we feel and react is up to us
How do we begin to interrupt automatic reactivity?
Observing, recognizing, and inhibiting automatic reactions
Slipping into internal silence
Trusting the natural state
Does not lead to passivity or being victimized
Becoming an emotional adult
Our goal is to become an actual human being, nothing else
Without conditioned reactions, then what?
Do you just sit and drool on yourself?
Awakened awareness moving freely through the world
Although no one is doing no thing, free, direct action occurs spontaneously, on its own, without encumbrances
How does this free, direct action appear to others?
Interesting, unpredictable, powerful, effective, loving, real, and authentic
This direct activity completely disrupts automatic, conditioned behavior in others
Thus, it is not always appreciated
Mostly, though, sheer playfulness and humor, which is very common, is valued by all
Decisions made out of this direct awareness are always ‘right’
There is no need to ever second-guess such actions
Second-guessing, like worry, is simply the mind’s disease
Stillness in action
Results in peaceful, low maintenance, friendly, curious open people who are emotionally alive and virtually impossible to offend
The result is that others feel free and accepted in the presence of this embodied no-mind